Say no to the stereotyper!

One of my personal bug bears as a disabled person is being automatically put in a “stereotype box”. What I mean is, as soon as somebody meets me for the first time (at least 80% of people) they unknowingly fall into their own stereotype. The bending down talking to you real slow is a good one.  “Aaarrre- youuu- oookkkk” I hear, with my completely functioning face. My personal favourite is the high volumed vocals as they assume you’re deaf! I just laugh to myself thinking, who are you taking to? It’s a toss up between a toddler and my 90 year old neighbour! There literally is no inbetween. Hey, I gotta get my kicks from somewhere, right?

My point is, when a person hears the word “disabled” they think of all the negative connnotations, which might seem trivial to some but it’s important to show the word “disability” in the correct light! Questions wondered tend to be “can they drink alcohol?” “Can they have relationships?” “Will they be able to participate like everybody else?” These are just a few; I could go on all day but then I’d loose readers through boredom because there are so many!

To reassure parents and other readers, I’ll answer the questions. Yes disabled people can drink alcohol (if they are of legal age whether it be 18 or 21) so long as they have full mental capacity to know what they are doing and not on any prescribed medications that don’t permit alcohol. I always say, even though I am disabled I have the same organs and most likely will eventually die just the same as everybody else! Shocker, I know.

Yes disabled people can have relationships and children just like able bodied people. We just require additional support. By this I mean I would need someone to get up and do night feeds (when I’m a parent) every night, that’s all. I’m just kidding- Possibly. We just need support in place so we can live the exact life as an able bodied person.

Another stereotype is if you have a disability, your full brain activity is not that of an able bodied person *cough cough* bachelors degree *cough cough*.  People have a tendency to talk to my careers instead of me because they think I can’t hold a conversation. Disabled people,  me included have the same level of intelligence as the next person! We are underestimated. I say that people with disabilities are intelligent not just by academia but by common sense and are very driven to prove every stereotype and society wrong!

Whatever time a disability enters your world,  whether it be as a child or through an event or situation later in life, just ignore the stereotypes and say, SOD you! For everyone that says you can’t, you tell them “yes I can and yes I will”. Do it bigger,  better! If you are a parent of a disabled child, my best suggestion would be do what my parents did and bring them up as able bodied as possible, meaning obviously make adaptations wherever is required but in their behaviour and personality. Bring them up as you originally planned when you thought they were going to be able bodied so that they will grow up as I have.  Let’s prove these stereotype wrong and achieve everything we want and more!

Here is the start of the light at the end of that never ending tunnel!

The concept and idea behind this blog might have curious parents or caregivers thinking, how the hell would a random blogger without children even begin to understand the constant and sometimes (I’m sure) lonely worries of being a parent, let alone a parent with a child who has additional needs? Well, I don’t blame you! As someone that questions everything, I would question me too! But I assure you, this is not my intention with this blog. Yes I’m not a parent (particularly a parent with a child/children with a disability), however I did used to be that child. A child that had additional needs and through the years myself and my family had to adapt to everything that comes with having a disability.

I’m here purposely to show that no matter how many meetings, obstacles or challenges there are, a disability does not mean that life is going to be unfulfilled and that a child will not carry out their dreams and hopes successfully for their future. I am living proof that goals and desires most certainly can be achieved. We are not doomed to a life sentence that some narrow minded people in society think. No! A disabled person can do everything and anything that an able bodied person can do, all that is needed is guidance and a push in the right direction. This is where I come in; I will share some of my personal experiences and give information that my family and I wish we would of had access to when I was growing up. Not just a couple of leaflets handed to you, or “try reading up some information” but real life experience, real life assurance! Does not matter your status or situation, whether you are a new parent or a parent that has just been given what seems like earth shattering news that a “disability” has entered your world. You might have recently become disabled through a life changing event or incident. You might just be bored and accidentally come across my blog and decide to have a nosey at yet another “how to be a successful person in life” blog. Whatever your reason for coming, just know that even though in this moment, it might not seem it but there is always a light at the end of the tunnel and excuse the pun but there is a always a “bright side to everything and I am here to help you see it!

Bye for now…

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