Being disabled can sometimes be a mixture of feelings and emotions that for some people can change everyday. Society has a big part to play in this in terms of what I have spoken about in previous blogs, stereotyping and disabled access not being as advertised.

I know from personal experience that most of the time my ‘blue’ days come more in the winter due to the snow not allowing me to get on with my everyday life.

Wheels and snow are not friends!

Sometimes people get anxious about leaving the house because they feel like they are going to be stared at or due to their wheelchair or limitations, this is not ok! Society needs to make people feel welcome and teach people that disabled people are no different to able bodied people.

This is one of my purposes for writing my blog in the first place to tell everyone what it really feels like to be disabled! Society is improving and it is a lot better than it used to be however a lot still needs to be done in order to make it more equal. Sometimes people feel blue because they feel like they are failing as they feel it is a constant battle to be seen as everyone else, even though they are in a wheelchair well let me tell you the issues are within themselves not you.

Also feeling down is not failing!!

Sometimes, I myself have felt this way over the years and I have learnt from bitter experiences that sometimes you have to feel these emotions in order to overcome discrimination etc and it makes you stronger as a person! The most important thing to do when you are down or anxious is talk to someone may be a family member or a friend you are not alone and you are certainly not going to get judged! Talking is one of the most powerful tools we have to make change happen! If you are a parent reading this and thinking I don’t want my child to go through this let me tell you it will be ok and that society has vastly improved and it is changing everyday.

My point is, that it is ok to have days where you think why am I disabled or why did that accident happen to me, you wouldn’t be human if you didn’t. Its about making sure that you don’t let limitations stop you in anything you want to do, as anything is possible you just have to rely on a blogger like me who myself lives with a disability to show you that the possibilities are endless even with a disability!

In a future post I will go into what it is like to have a mental illness and a disability and how with strength and perseverance like everything else it can be over come! I know it’s not just disabled people that get down and anxious I know every person on earth has felt it at some point in their lives what ever the issue or reason just know that support is available and with the the right guidance and support there is nothing that can’t be helped or overcome !

Like I said at the beginning it’s ok to be blue sometimes it’s only human nature!

The concept and idea behind this blog might have curious parents or caregivers thinking, how the hell would a random blogger without children even begin to understand the constant and sometimes (I’m sure) lonely worries of being a parent, let alone a parent with a child who has additional needs? Well, I don’t blame you! As someone that questions everything, I would question me too! But I assure you, this is not my intention with this blog. Yes I’m not a parent (particularly a parent with a child/children with a disability), however I did used to be that child. A child that had additional needs and through the years myself and my family had to adapt to everything that comes with having a disability.

I’m here purposely to show that no matter how many meetings, obstacles or challenges there are, a disability does not mean that life is going to be unfulfilled and that a child will not carry out their dreams and hopes successfully for their future. I am living proof that goals and desires most certainly can be achieved. We are not doomed to a life sentence that some narrow minded people in society think. No! A disabled person can do everything and anything that an able bodied person can do, all that is needed is guidance and a push in the right direction. This is where I come in; I will share some of my personal experiences and give information that my family and I wish we would of had access to when I was growing up. Not just a couple of leaflets handed to you, or “try reading up some information” but real life experience, real life assurance! Does not matter your status or situation, whether you are a new parent or a parent that has just been given what seems like earth shattering news that a “disability” has entered your world. You might have recently become disabled through a life changing event or incident. You might just be bored and accidentally come across my blog and decide to have a nosey at yet another “how to be a successful person in life” blog. Whatever your reason for coming, just know that even though in this moment, it might not seem it but there is always a light at the end of the tunnel and excuse the pun but there is a always a “bright side to everything and I am here to help you see it!

Bye for now…